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I found myself watching these music videos that made me cry today without really knowing how I got there. You should listen to them too; they have great messages:

-“If Nobody Believed in You” by Joe Nichols
-“I’ll Wait for You” by Joe Nichols
-“This Ain’t Nothin'” by Craig Morgan
-“Don’t Laugh at Me” by Mark Wills
-“Didn’t Have to Be” by Brad Paisley

It makes me sad that the word “love” is starting to mean something physical rather than something real.

It makes me sad that some are willing to step on others to reach the top of the food chain first, to make jokes that hurt the other person, or to feel superior over them and get their way.

It makes me sad that the teenagers who aren’t ready to be parents are raising a large portion of a future generation. There are T.V. shows like “16 and Pregnant” as if we are encouraging it.

It makes me sad that the pressure on academics, sports, jobs, etc. can get so rough that as people continue to tell each other that he or she isn’t fast enough, isn’t strong enough, isn’t smart enough, each of them begins to believe it. Why would they have faith in themselves when no one else has faith in them?

Watch your words. Watch your actions.

Be encouraging and give someone the boost they need. When you say “I love you,” don’t say it out of habit. Really mean it. Wherever someone is at in their lives, there is a reason they got there. You don’t know what they’ve been through. 

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Without even going any further, I’m sure you have a pretty good idea what I’m talking about.

The List. A man’s worst nightmare. The checkpoints that supposedly makeup your ideal man, maybe the perfect man, maybe the man that ends up being gay or simply something you copied from a Disney story. Maybe he’s one of the heroes on TV that knows just what to say to make a woman go weak at the knees just by watching. He doesn’t exist, sweetheart. If you put that much pressure on men, you will just make them confused and exhausted.

I think at first we start out broad—handsome, funny, tall.

But as the months go on, it gets more specific—optimistic, similar interests, gets along with family and friends.

And then it becomes almost obnoxiously pinpointed—guitar player, can cook, loves cats.

No offense to the guys that might be reading this, but you can’t expect much from men. I think the less that you expect, the more they tend to surprise you. Sometimes the qualities you are looking for, or that you think you want, are not necessarily what’s best for you or what you will be happy with.

For example, if you want to marry a doctor is it because he likes making people healthy again, or because it means he has money? Do you even know how busy doctors are? If you think he has the time to both work and wait on you hand and foot, then you are sadly mistaken.

I think some people underestimate personality. Just because he may not always look cute, does not mean he isn’t the funniest person you’ve ever met. Sometimes their personality makes them handsome.

Sometimes I believe in the phrase “What’s meant to be will always find its way,” and then other times I believe that’s crap because of how people use it. You can’t sit on your ass and then say “If God wants me to get married, I’ll get married.” You actually have to put forth some effort to get the answers you’re looking for. Shocking, I know.

Now there should be some sort of attraction between the two of you that is more than just sexual, or your relationship will never be happy. (some people need to remember this: just because he may be good in bed, doesn’t mean that he will be a suitable husband for you. Whether you like it or not, there has to be an actual good relationship. Eventually good sex won’t be enough. I know couples who get divorced because of this.)

Somehow, many people are surprised when a quiet person and a social person end up being together. This does not surprise me at all. I am a bit more quiet, so I look for people who talk more than me because I am a listener.

However, yes you should keep open-minded, but whether we like it or not, all of us have something that is somewhat of a requirement for us. Think about what yours are without making a list three pages long.  One of mine is the guy needs to be a Christian because I want my family to put God first in everything they do.

Don’t be afraid to wait, but that doesn’t mean you need to turn down everyone who comes along.

That probably sounds more complicated than what it really is, but you’ll figure it out 😉

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People underestimate themselves. I am a B student, but I think that might just be because I am the world’s greatest procrastinator… But what if I took the time before hand to correct some simple things that I knew could be better? If I really challenged myself to be an A student and put time and effort into my homework as I do my short stories and books…what might I be?

This past week I wasn’t feeling at all myself. Part of it might have been because of my dogs that died, but I think it went deeper than that. Not even music was doing anything for me…and music has always turned things around for me. Now that school is almost over, I have enough papers and projects due this coming week that would give high schoolers a second thought about going to college. A couple of them are due Monday, but I decided to take today for myself. A friend and I went shopping for a cake and some small presents for a friend’s birthday tomorrow, and when we got back, we chopped off one of the school’s flowers to give to the friend, and I came back and did some Karaoke by myself using Youtube. Then I watched Sherlock Holmes, followed by a romantic comedy called No Reservations. Awesome movies. These couple of things have switched my whole day around. Having the afternoon to myself while my roommates were out doing whatever, was relaxing. I get to sleep in tomorrow, and for the first time in many days, I don’t mind that I have a lot to do tomorrow, because I got to have today.

We push and push ourselves into such pressure all the time, that sometimes we just start feeling like crap, though we don’t always know what from. I don’t know what you’re going through, what you’re worried about, or what may be going wrong in your life right now, but sometimes you just need to stop. Stop trying to run with a pack that has stronger legs, and gives yourselves a rest. Stop trying to impress everyone, and spend some time in your pajamas. Stop with extra-credit stuff for a minute, and take a nap. We all face times that we have to stay on top of our toes and things to stay awake for, but you can’t survive being like that all the time. The moment life gives you a break, don’t pass it up. Remember what it feels like to relax; remember what it feels like to not have to worry about something. Take a hot bath and play some calming piano music. Don’t lose yourself in the hustle, or you will forget who you are and become an uptight mess.

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