I watched The Amazing Spiderman 2 this morning, and something re-occurred to me. I say re-occurred because it’s not something I haven’t heard before, but something that re-opened the eyes after being under blankets for a period of time. Before Electro truly became the bad guy, he was just a face in the crowd. He sees himself appear on all the TV screens in the square and says, “You see me.”
Isn’t that naturally what most of us want at some point? To be seen? I’m an introvert and shiver at the idea of a crowded room all looking at me, even if they were smiling. I’m a groupie. But that doesn’t mean I want to be another face in the crowd either. I want to hear my name called out by a close friend, by a boyfriend whom I’m head-over-heels for. I’d like a total stranger to say something like, “Hey. Not that I’m a creep or anything, but you have pretty eyes,” or “Girl, I may not be able to pull off that color, but you look ravishing.”
In return, I also want to start noticing people more than usual. I want to start stepping outside of my comfort zone and looking people in the eye with a smile instead of at a passing flower patch as I pass a stranger. I want to sit on a bench by someone who is sitting alone and make small talk and learn his/her name because it’s good to make others feel noticed since I know how nice it is to be noticed by someone else.
I wish these days that to notice someone didn’t necessarily mean you had a crush on that person. I want to be friendly without having that person assuming I want a date or a drink or money for a charity. I just want to be nice to you so that maybe your day will be brightened so you’ll do the same for someone else. You don’t know what kind of day someone else has had, and it puts a smile on my face knowing that I was able to make someone else smile.
Before Electro was Electro and he was in the elevator with Gwen, she says, “It was nice to meet you, Max.” And he pauses and goes, “She remembered my name.”
Start noticing others in a way that is not necessarily romantic, but just genuine. Do this even for your friends. It doesn’t matter if you helped that friend pick out that shirt. Compliment that friend anyway. Compliments are a good starting place. After all the work some put into their face or clothing, the least you could do is say, “By the way, I wanted to let you know that you look really pretty today. Have a good one.” With the way things are these days, we could use all the help we can get.